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What Your Death Says About You
What legacy are you leaving behind?
Welcome to Your Deathbed
Many fear dying alone. I often talk with callers who don’t realize that how they treat their loved ones over their lifetime could determine who is by their side during their final days.
After a recent exasperating call, I spontaneously decided to spend an hour of my program on the subject of deathbeds. I posed the question to callers, “Who would you like by your side in your final hours, and what do you need to do now to prepare for that moment?” Their responses are the focus of today’s Deep Dive podcast, “Welcome to Your Deathbed.”
Here are some of the incredibly profound answers I received from callers:
I want my husband and all our kids there, but I’d also like an angel to help me pass over. If no angel appears, I’d like an arrow pointing out the way. I don’t want to be unsure of which way to go.
I recently sat down with my oldest grandson, who is now in college, and said, “You’ve seen me failing. This is going to happen when you’re off at school. Don’t drop everything you’re doing, and don’t mourn me because you’ve made my life so great.” I wanted him to think of those words and to remember that Grandpa was a great grandpa. I want him to remember me with a smile and not a lot of tears. That’s a great thing to leave behind.
I have my deathbed all planned out already because I want it to be a party. Hopefully, it’s not some sudden accident because I want my friends and family to be there, music playing — hymns to Metallica and everything in between — with food from all over. I want people to know that I didn’t just die, but I lived!
Listen to the other captivating responses that callers shared in this Deep Dive episode
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My Grandma Earned the Title of "Mom"
Not all women who give birth are meant to be mothers — like Jennifer’s mom. The women who stand in their place, like Jennifer’s grandmother, are a testament to maternal love:
When my parents divorced, my mother decided she didn’t want to take care of my siblings and me. It was our 73-year-old grandmother who stepped up and saved us from foster care. She didn’t want the three of us siblings, all under five years old, to grow up abandoned.
Our biological mom continued to wreak havoc in our young lives.
As Grandma was preparing to move us out-of-state, she discovered her own daughter drained the savings accounts Grandma made for us kids. My Grandmother was hurt. We three children were hurt.
But in the end, it was my mother who hurt the most.
She never got to watch the football games nor hear the band concerts my two brothers took part in. She never got to listen to the piano recitals I played. She wasn’t at my wedding nor was she there for the birth of my two daughters. She never got to meet any of her grandchildren. All by HER choice.
My siblings and I loved and honored our grandmother until the day she died at the beautiful age of 97.
Losing her was the hardest day of my life. We engraved the words, “Forever in our hearts” on her headstone, and we all still feel that way. SHE is our guardian angel.
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💡 Thought of the Day
Time is non-refundable.
Spend it with intention.
Now, go do the right thing!
